Hi Nancy,
I'm sorry that I'm just discovering your question. Take it really slowly with your new baby. She probably has never been on a hand and had little human contact.
Just because she is a big talker does not mean she had lots of human contact. It probably means that she learned all of the phrases from listening from the backroom, never being touched.
Therefore, please listen to the lectures on the site about working with nervous birds. Also, as you slowly let her out overtime, you will need to buffer places so she does not fall a lot and hurt herself. I wrote an article on working with clumsiness in the public part of the site. Please look it up.
But realize since she probably had little contact with humans, start out slowly. Don't really push the idea of her being out immediately. Spend time by the cage talking to her and scritiching her head thru the bars. If you already do that a lot, move slowly to doing it with your hand in the cage. They feel more secure IN their cages. Then slowly, over time, as you rub her head, slowly touch the feet and eventually hold one and rub it with a hand, all the while telling her how wonderful she is. This will get her used to contact with human hands in a non-threatening way.
The process could take a year or longer. Greys go slowly so take one tiny step at a time. Gradually, she may be calmer over time. If you would like a consultation or something, call me at 212-888-1784.
Maggie-