by peter » Sun Feb 12, 2006 12:20 am
Terry, thanks for the tip. We were coincidentally doing the same thing, at the outset when our girl was real spooky. Sometimes it seemed to work, and she would tolerate sitting on my lap/hand/shoulder for a while. But more often she just did not want any part of it. What seemed also to work was just to hang out by her gym, & try to seduce her with treats(I would sit on the floor & put a treat on my knee, etc. etc) and really feeling foolish. Imagine, a parrot making me act like a begging fool for mercy! Starting this week, for the first time with any regularity, she has willingly stepped up on my hand to join me for breakfast, and at nite when I come home, actually seems happy to see me and again step up as we watch TV together. But sometimes she just seems content to tease by pretending from a distance to want to socialize, but then retreating when I approach. Seems almost like she is deliberately playing mind games with me, and maybe she is. One thing I discovered this week that might be fun for others to try--happened to have unwrapped a granola bar, the kind that comes in a tinfoil like material(mylar?), and after giving her a bit of the bar, for no particular reason handed her the wrapper. This has become her favorite toy. She just seems to love holding it with one hand while working assiduously and endlessly on it with her beak, trying and trying to poke holes in it but never succeeding. I guess this is the challenge, and she never seems to tire of it--I tire before she does! Today, in an effort to get her to drop the wrapper so we could go out, I gave her a nut treat. But she just found a way to hold both at the same time, and eat the treat! The great thing is that the progress we are making is definite, even if now & then there are set-backs, so I remain hopeful that the time will come when we will be totally comfortable with each other once more. Our girl will be 3 this coming March. Terry, is yours female? Do you have any thoughts about why this happens? Maggie, thanks so much for your support, and for your comforting words.